Where do you live?

Anyone in a relationship will tell you that sometimes, we won't know what to do or which way to go, especially during the troubled times. There will be disagreements, opposing thoughts, and vast misunderstandings with no middle ground in sight. When this happens, and we are reaching our breaking points, how on earth do we deal?

If you love your partner deeply, closer is always the answer. You and your partner are suppose to be each other's lighthouses, the flickers or beacons that guide you home; you are each other's home. That's what healthy relationships do, they ground. What if the arguments aren't an attempt to belittle, usurp or control, but rather an attempt to reconcile? If any of this resonates with you, the solutions are clear.

Choose words and actions that shorten the distance between you. These include pausing to listen (putting your voice and opinions on hold for a moment), inquiring to understand, and absorbing to empathize. It's kindness and respect. It's caring and valuing. Those are the paths to each other, and you can see what magic is possible when you both do this. Remember that physically leaving for long, silent treatments, doors, tempers and accusations, take you the other way. My wish is that your relationship is the place where unguarded, unarmed and breathtakingly natural you, lives.

#communication

#closeness

#marriage

#love