Part 2: Commitment

In my studies, commitment emerged as an absolute must for a strong healthy relationship. This wondrous (or terrifying) word has gotten a bad rap because its widely misunderstood. Commitment isn't about staying in a relationship or avoiding divorce at all costs. I believe its about fighting. Its about fighting the factors that get in the way of intimacy, and fighting hard. It's about fighting for the relationship as oppose to passively hoping things will magically get better. Its about fighting off the urge to run towards exits. Exits are places to go where the real stuff can be shelved: work, hobbies, activities, and social circles are a few. Affairs and addictions are the nastiest ones that usually leave irreparable damage. While venting with close family and friends give temporary relief, committed couples talk about the things that need to be dealt with with each other. Nothing can be resolved when truths are aimed outward, or by bringing in externals to influence the outcome (unless of course there is abuse or manipulation involved, yeah that's another post entirely).

Commitment simply means that two people love each other a great deal; they love being together and want to keep doing that in its purest sacred form, for a very long time. So, they do whatever it takes to make that happen.

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