It starts with you

There is a reason that, in a blog about relationships I focus quite a bit on individual issues. I do this on purpose, because what happens in part of a system has a profound effect on the whole. The healthier you both are individually, the better you relate. I was once asked, "Do I have to have all my shit sorted out before I enter a relationship?" Yes. In rare occasions, I've seen people only begin to truly work on themselves because someone finally believes in them, and there's enough hope and courage within the couple relationship to undertake deep healing. Now. Let me be absolutely clear here: I am not encouraging anyone to get involved with someone troubled (addictions, jealousy, control issues, basically anyone who causes anyone else feel like they are less). I AM NOT. I say this because I've seen some really solid and well-adjusted individuals lose critical part of themselves because of their relationship. This part I'll claim louder: DYSFUNCTION, GIVEN ENOUGH TIME AND OPPORTUNITY ERODES GOODNESS. It can, it has, it will. If you're reading this, then it's not too late. It's never too late.

Hence, this one is titled it starts with you. It starts with you using all that your sound, intelligent, intuitive and learning mind has gathered about what is healthy and what is not. Use them before you get involved, use them if you already are, use them wherever you are on this journey. Reflect deeply. If this is the first post of mine you're reading then please scroll down and visit the others, there's a lot there. Email me if you need clarification or if you want more. Above all, use the blessedly sacred and precious YOU, wisely.

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