For the newly committed, the newlyweds and the like

Any moment where love blooms is worth celebrating! Falling in love and enjoying each other's company can feel heavenly, so here are a few things to keep in mind when they don't. Its not the highs that reveal the true nature of a relationship, it will be the lows. Anyone and everyone can do the good part. A common phrase I hear is "but when its good its really good!", and this shouldn't EVER be followed by when "but when it's bad it's really bad". It just shouldn't. Nope. Children throw tantrums, scream, throw things, and run off angrily, adults don't. At least we're not supposed to. Committed relationships are grown up matters hence require grown up behaviour. I don't mean boring and dull, I mean adult things like apologizing, owning our mistakes, being respectful and being kind. Always. Sometimes you'll have to "park" disagreements by putting them aside to enjoy a pre-planned evening, or to share the bed. We've all heard the adage "Never go to bed angry", yet honestly this isn't always possible. A more genuine way to handle it would be to say "I'm still angry, lets talk again tomorrow or soon".

There'll come a time when you expect perfection from your mate. It happens to the best of us. You'll find yourself saying things like "I can't believe he forgot this!" or "she just stood there and didn't (insert your desired response here)". Love doesn't make us mind readers, tireless, or solely in tune with the needs of our beloved. If you're hurt or angry it's best to voice how you feel; say what you mean and meaning what you say. Speak kindly, there's that word again. Keep it handy it and use it often. If you hold back truths because you don't want to hurt your partner, your act of omission IS hurtful. This is lying, whether you view it that way or not. Have faith in your loved one and in your collective ability to deal. If your relationship can't handle the bumps then its best to face that head on as well.

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